In speaking with one of my clients, I was reminded that every day and every moment of the day is a new moment, and a bulb went off in my head. This is something I practice in my life right now, but that wasn’t always the case.
Years ago, I held onto situations in my life and had a harder time in general just letting go. For example, if one of my kids was disrespectful to me or yelled at me, I was angry and held that anger from one moment to the next. Sometimes I was still thinking about it the next day. Children often tell their parents that they hate them. I can remember a specific situation where one of my kids was not allowed to use the computer after a certain time at night. When I was reinforcing the boundary that I had already set, she reacted from her own anger and disappointment and said, “I hate you.” I was distraught.
The next morning I woke up, still thinking about this outburst. This was true in much of my parenting in my early years. Through my own transformation, I have not only learned and practiced letting these moments go and not taking these things personally but also that each moment is a new moment.
Today, I teach this to my clients, my private groups, in workshops and to the world at large. One minute does not need to carry over to the next. Our children and other adults in our lives might act in ways that we do not resonate with or find comfortable. When this happens, it is important to remember that everyone is entitled to their own reaction. That is their process. Our job is to allow that without judgment or feeling personally attacked. As we do, we can move to the next moment, and the moment after that, with a fresh start, a new breath.
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