Ask, Don’t Tell What do our children need? This is a very powerful question. Since I have pondered it many times throughout a day, week, month and year, I can tell you that each child needs something different from us as their parents, no matter their age.
When we look at our children, we do so through a colored lens. A colored lens is a distortion of reality. But then where does this artificial lens originate? As a parent coach and a parent who has been through a transformational journey, I have learned that these lenses come from a host of different places.
One of the most important pieces of advice that I received from a good friend when I divorced was that “it is all about the children now.”
When my girls were little, I remember my oldest, about 8 at that time, wanting to play indoor soccer. It was wintertime. Movement, although important in everyone’s life, was especially important for her. She was the kind of kid who needed to get her energy out in a constructive fashion. Her good friend and neighbor,…